If you hire me to represent you in your divorce, it is important for you to understand what I am, and what I am not. I went to law school. I am trained in the law. I am not a therapist. That is not to say that I am not sensitive to the emotionally trying times that you are going through. I very much am. And I get it that this is difficult for you. But don’t be offended if I don’t ask you how you are doing every time we talk. I can’t help you with those issues. If you are having a difficult time dealing with your emotions during your divorce case, it is important that you rely on your support network of family and friends and/or your therapist.
(To that point, some people fear that it is a sign of weakness if they are seeing a therapist. They fear that the Court might see them as emotionally fragile or unstable, and, for that reason, unfit to have custody of their children, for example. Don’t feel this way. It is far better to seek the help that you need rather than to suffer in silence. Judges understand that divorce is very difficult, and they won’t “hold it against you” if you are in therapy.)
So, keep these things in mind when we speak on the phone or in person. Your legal fees are better spent on issues that I can actually help you with. If we have a scheduled meeting, be prepared to address the issues on our agenda. And do your best to discuss them without getting into the emotional issues that might underlie them. I need you to be able to provide me with important information and to carry on a conversation without breaking down.
Easier said than done, sometimes. I understand that. Don’t worry. I won’t kick you out of the office if you shed a few tears. That’s why we have a box of Kleenex in our conference rooms. Just remember that a divorce is a business transaction, and that’s what I can help you with. Other people in your life are better suited to help you with the emotional issues. Don’t be afraid to seek them out.
Contact Beyer & Simonson
If you are facing divorce and any of the divorce-related issues such as spousal maintenance, child support, child custody, property division, or domestic abuse matters, you need our experienced Minneapolis divorce attorneys to help you. Contact Beyer & Simonson in Edina, Minnesota today at (952) 303-6007.