I clerked for a District Court Judge my first job out of law school. Prior to court hearings, the Judge regularly brought the lawyers back into his chambers to privately discuss the case.

In divorce cases, one of the lawyers would invariably rattle off a laundry list of complaints about the other party. The lawyer would go on-and-on about how terrible the other party was.

And the Judge often had the same response: Tens don’t marry Twos.

In other words, lawyer, if the other party is such a bad person and has done so many awful things, what does it say about your client that they married them?

If you find yourself in the middle of a divorce, you too may be tempted to highlight the perceived faults of your spouse. While it may or may not be legitimate to bring these out, understand that your credibility could be at risk, too. Are you claiming to be perfect, and only your spouse is the bad actor? Will the Judge buy that?

You may think that you are scoring points with the Judge by smearing your spouse. And maybe you are. But don’t forget, Tens don’t marry Twos.

Meet Marc Beyer

Marc Beyer practices in all areas of family law, including divorce, child custody, parenting time, child support, spousal maintenance, and property division. Marc’s philosophy is to negotiate the best settlement possible, but he is prepared to go to trial when necessary. Recognizing that every situation is unique, Marc takes pride in listening to his client’s concerns, and creates goals, expectations, and case strategy for the client accordingly.

Contact Beyer & Simonson

If you are facing divorce and any of the divorce-related issues such as spousal maintenance, child support, child custody, property division, or domestic abuse matters, you need our experienced Minneapolis divorce attorneys to help you. Contact Beyer & Simonson in Edina, Minnesota today at (952) 303-6007.

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